My life in the farm 9
My life in the farm chapter 9
Living in the farm is a very lonely life, but it is better than if you don't have anywhere better to live, at least you live a healthy life.
In the old times there was a lot of work to collect wheat and other cereals, this photo shows how the farmers used to trash their wheat and everything else, it was a very long and boring job to do.
My life in the farm chapter
Welcome to my hub, my life in the small farms when I was young.
Dear readers, here we are talking about my farm life in the farms of southern Italy when I was young, I would like to tell my life just the way that I have lived it. To understand my points of views that I would like to make here, one has to try to compare the present way of life which we live today in the towns or in the farms to the time when I was young; from my experience I can assure you that life then was much harder and boring than today. I am saying this to you dear readers because today you are living in this new and wonderful era of electronic devices, and you can choose to listen, watch or play with these electronic devices; and in doing so you may be able to enjoy yourself, and at the same time you may be able to learn something useful from them, if you put your mind to it.
Therefore I would like to ask you this; could you just imagine a world that has no man made electronics? A world with not even a single push button devise that you could amuse yourself with them, like we do today? And then to compare this way of living while you should ask yourself, how could one live in a very isolated environment where silence of human voices reigns supreme days after days, with the exception of a few phrases every now and then. I suppose all this is hard to believe today, because wherever you go there are these electronic devices that sing to you talk to you or inform you about many things that are happening in the world.
But in those times there was nothing like that, because those devices had not been invented yet, so, life was completely different then, it was very quiet and boring and that’s how my farm-life was like when I was young, and this sort of life I had to endure in my long stay in the farm during my youth. So let me describe a bit more about life in the small farms of those days.
The small farms of those days
In the small family farms of those days there was no electricity, so we had no electrical devices of any sort not even a portable radio to listen to, because those devices had not come out yet on the market, and even if there had been a portable radio on the market we would not be able to afford one. I know that today it would be hard to believe that in those times we the farmers could not afford to buy anything outside the bare need for surviving, but it was so.
So I had to grow up in this lonely environment, and as I grew up and became a teenager I started to realize that I was falling behind to the rest of the normal town community, to understand what I am saying here, I need to explain that even though I was working in the farm every day, we were allowed to go to our home in town ones or twice a week and when we were not too busy in the farm we could also spend every second Sunday in town with the other members of our family that were permanently in town, this is why I was able to see that I and the other youths that were in the same position were all in a disadvantaged position.
As I have said above, we were all in a disadvantaged position and becoming dull, as long as we were in that position there was no way of improving ourselves; here I mean everything at all could have helped us a bit, even the way of knowing what was happening in the community, which the other boys in town seemed to know everything and we seemed so dull when we were compared to them, also the ways of expressing our self clearly was not easy, since we were forced to live a lonely and taciturn way of life and therefore we did not speak much. There were times that I wanted so badly to have a radio like the people in town, so that at least I could listen to a proper way of speech, and improve myself in that way, but it was not possible. Therefore I was stuck in that lonely world, where one is stuck for good with one’s own company and thoughts day and night for ages; this is how we used to live our young lives then and let me explain:
In the farms of those days there were only a few people staying and working there, and they would go on about doing their farm duty. So they didn’t really care to talk to you if you were much younger than them. So, it was a very lonely place to be in such farms when one was young.
Those people which usually are staying in the farms don’t talk very much, since in their isolation there is nothing much to talk about; so, they are used to be taciturn, and there were days when only a few necessary phrases were exchanged between us; so conversation was very low indeed. This way of life that I was living could only result about not being satisfactory for me later on in life, because I was very young and my needs would have been better served, if I had been in a more sociable place in order to learn a more sociable way of life, and in doing so I would have been able to overcome some of my personal shyness. So, this staying in the farm when I was young became later-on a great disadvantage for me, because it only made me grow more isolated, and in the end it made me feel even more isolated from the rest of the world; and in this isolation I had to grow.
There were lots of times when I were alone and nobody would be near me to say a single word, and this was happening to me many days. So in my isolation I would start thinking and learning things all by myself in my own way, anything at all that came into my mind, or things that would happen in the farm, and when you are by yourself for a very long time and think by yourself for a great length of time, you don’t need to express your thoughts in words to yourself, therefore anything that you learn may start being stored within your own mind in a different way, you still learn things, perhaps even more accurate than when you learn with words: The only drawback is that when you have to speak out, lots of times you would not know what to say; not because you don’t know it, since in your mind there is a very clear picture of what you need to day; but because you find it hard finding the right words to express yourself. So this is one of the great disadvantages, which I and those youths who were unlucky like me, as they ended up working in their own families’ farms at a very early age. I am sorry to say it, but we had to put up with the hard consequences which have followed us for the rest of our lives. Now allow me to describe a bit more the farm life of those days.
I would describe such a farm life thus:
Because in the farms there are not many people to talk to, and nothing of much of importance to talk about, so farmers’ people are usually taciturn; and when you compare this way of life to the towns’ people way of life you could feel at once the difference. Wherever you are in small towns people converse a lot with each other, but in the farms there seems to be a great silence of human voices, not only because there are not many people to talk to, but also because those people that are there are not interested in talking, since they are there to do their job and run the farm. So, we who happened to be living in the farms when we were young, we had to keep ourselves to ourselves, and this is how and why we became dull later on when we grew up.
So, whoever has happened to have lived in the farm as I did would have to become dull, particularly if one was as young as I was and the few people around me were much older than me, because as I said those people in the farms were there just to do their jobs, and therefore they could not and would not care about the young ones’ developing social skills, because it had nothing to do with the running of the farm, and also because they didn’t know any better anyhow, just because nobody had taught what to do or say to them, so they would go about just doing whatever they had to do.
Even nowadays while I am writing this article, I hate the way of life that I had to live in the farm when I was young and I hate so much, because it made me then a dull person, not only then but for most of my life, and perhaps I am still a dull person now; only because we usually were living isolated lives and we had to keep ourselves to ourselves.
Of my shortcomings I became aware even more when I had to leave my farming life behind, since I had to start a different way of life somewhere else. And since then, right through my entire life I have tried to catch up with the rest of the community, but it seems to me that I have never been able to catch up completely.
So, this is the reason why I hate still that way of life in the farms; it is because such a way of life as we had to live in the farm could only breed dull people; and so I became dull in the end; but not only I, but also all those youths which ended up like me working in the farm at a very young age had to become dull.
But this is not all because; there were times when we went into town, while we were there we could feel that some of the town’s people would ridicule us for being what we were, and this would hurt us very much as it was not our fault for being what we were. But let us not worry about this very negative side of life, because if we worry too much it could destroy us; therefore let us try to turn this negative aspect of life into a positive one, if we can?
Turning negative into positive
Turning negative into positive that is what I would like to do today
As you have read above dear readers life sometimes can be very hard, and I have had a large share of hard life and one of this was that I worked in the farm when I was very young, but I am not going to surrender and continue to cry my heart out forever; because I believe that we all have to try to overcome our inner pains soon or later, therefore from now on I am going to try to turn a negative event into a positive one, that is the only right way to go about these sort of things.
As you can see dear readers, this life story has many sides, one of which is what I had to do in my young life and it turned out that it was not the best way to live our young life in the farms of those times; and then is what I have felt about the time that I have spend in the farms, and this is also a negative thing, because I have been feeling hurt for a very long time, and I was even more hurt because I was living in the farms without knowing the consequences that could and would follow, so even today my heart wants to cry out, but I am not going to let it happen in this negative way all the time, because I am going to fight back, and try to turn a negative into a positive, I believe that this is the only way that makes sense and I am going to try it out.
Now, at this point of time this is where I would like to stop with this hub, there will be more farm life stories later on, but now let me break away for the time being from the negative thing of my life, because in my next hub I am going to describe how to break away from my old farm life the way it was and try to live a more normal life, therefore in a way I am rebelling and I am going to try to turn negative into positive, as this could be the only way to deal with my life drawback; so in our next hub I will be talking about my effort of how to turn negative into positive, by talking about it and by saying, Hello my world, the ways we behave and everyone of us has a story to tell. See you soon.